Episode 11 - “The Drought”
Carrie and Big get to the point in their relationship where they sleep together at night without having sex. I suppose this is where I, the married guy, will say, “Sleeping together without sex. You know what I call that? Every day!” But I’m not going to do that. I think it’s important to reach that point where you are so comfortable with another person that you can simply be yourself and not worry about carnal urges.
Sex is not important. If it was, the show could also be called “Important in the City” but that doesn’t make any sense. There are so many ways two people can pass the time without having sex. They can play Twister. They can wrestle. They can do the lambada. They can even knock boots. (I find ski boots lend themselves to the best knocking.) I ask you to spend some time doing any of those activities and at the end tell me if you still want to have sex. In fact, I’ll go one better. Why don’t you do any of those things naked and tell me you’re still thinking about sex.
Sex should be something that comes when you least expect it or every other Sunday. It’s spontaneity (or a planned Sunday time) that really makes things magical. If you are having sex every day, where’s the magic? (Other than the fact that you can have sex every day. Nice work, Houdini.) It becomes a chore. Do you want sex to be on the same plane as taking out the garbage or washing the dishes? No, you want it to be special like when you have sex with the garbage or when you’re doing (Aww yeah!) the dishes.
In conclusion, don’t be upset when sex doesn’t become the thing that defines your relationship. Embrace the new levels of love you are going to achieve because that’s all you’re going to be embracing once you get married. (Am I right, fellas? Hi Ohh!)
I am a Carrie because I too have farted in front of the person I love.
